Shield for Enemy Fire

We do experience destructive interactions with others often, and as a result of this disconnection generally three responses are performed that never help to fix the problem totally.  We might choose to flee and avoid the person in front of us or maybe we freeze and do not know what to react. Sometimes we fight back and the consequences get even bigger. However, there are not helpful to construct a healthy communication, even the person in front of us does not try to be helpful for it.

It is the fact that we all have the key in our hand to open and enter the other's world or ours easily. This is the necessity for a conscious communication and the process consists of four steps.

OBSERVATION - The action/event that we are observing at that moment

FEELINGS - Emotional responses for our observation

NEEDS - The reasons and sources of our feelings

REQUEST - The polite asking to enhance the quality of the moment

If we follow these steps, we shall hold a very powerful shield for enemy fire and have an important chance to upgrade our relationships.

Let communications be conscious and disconnections become connections!